About Cate

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Hi, I’m Cate.

I began my psychotherapy journey in the UK in the 1990s, first training in individual psychotherapy at Leicester University, then specialising as a couples therapist with Relate UK. After relocating to County Mayo, Ireland, in 2003, I deepened my expertise further by qualifying as a supervisor and trainer. I also founded Mayo Couples Counselling Services to meet the growing need for relationship support in the west of Ireland.

My passion for this work comes from personal experience. I married young, without the knowledge or skills to navigate the challenges ahead. Like many couples, we loved each other but weren’t prepared. We hadn’t grown up with strong models for lasting relationships—nor were we taught these skills at school. Our marriage ended, despite the love and hopes we had for our family.

My early experience of couples counselling was a turning point. It was the spark that fuelled my passion for helping others and ultimately led to a long career specialising in couples therapy—and later, to helping other therapists strengthen their skills in this rewarding field.

Over the years, I kept hearing my clients say, “If only we’d had this guidance sooner.” Those words echoed my own early thoughts and struggles.

This powerful “if only” inspired me to create practical, user-friendly resources designed specifically for couples in the early stages of commitment—when change is easiest, motivation is high, and tools can make the biggest difference.

I developed a Relationship/Marriage Preparation Course that therapists can deliver to couples during this critical window. It’s now being used by dozens of therapists around the world.

• Couples are highly motivated and eager to protect their love. They’re looking for skills, tools, and guidance to help their relationship thrive.
   
• They haven’t yet developed entrenched issues or years of built-up resentment. A pre-course questionnaire helps therapists identify and address unhelpful tendencies before they become destructive.
   
• Therapists can raise early awareness of negative relational patterns or family-of-origin dynamics—and help couples break those cycles early.
   

• Understanding Different “Normals”
  Every couple brings different expectations based on their upbringing. Therapy helps them shift from “I’m right, you’re wrong” to deeper mutual understanding—especially after the honeymoon stage. Together, they can choose which patterns to keep, which to let go of, and which new ones to create that honour both partners.
   
• Recognising and Managing Triggers
  Couples learn to identify their emotional triggers and how to soothe and regulate themselves and each other.
   
• Balancing Self and Connection
  I teach couples how to stay true to themselves and connected in their relationship—how to be “me,” “you,” and “us.”
   
• Building a Relationship That Lasts
  Each partner learns to actively co-create a strong, lasting relationship built on shared responsibility and intentional growth.
   

Working with couples at any stage is both a challenge and a privilege. Even the most stuck relationships can shift with expert guidance and the right tools. When couples are motivated, meaningful progress is within reach—and often begins from the very first session.