Regular Sessions and or Intensive Sessions
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I developed MCCS to provide a much needed all round service for Couples in intimate relationships in Mayo and the West. In more recent times I have added working online via Zoom so am now available to a wider community.
I started out as an individual psychotherapist in the 1990s but very early on in my career I felt drawn to learning how best to work with couples.
My own parents divorced when I was a teenager ….so not too surprisingly I wasn’t that great at relationships in my early adult life either!! Not helped by 7 years at an all-girls boarding school. I was naïve and ill equipped, for growing maturely in a committed relationship.
This eventually transformed through my own experience of good couples counselling. It was a real eye opener and definitely challenging at times Ultimately this ignited my passion for helping other couples navigate through their stuck relationships with more self/other awareness, tolerance and understanding.
· To be more aware of how their own history creeps into the relationship
· To know how to calm their own reactions when triggered
· To learn how to maintain a strong sense of self in a connected
· To know how each must take an active part in creating the type of
relationship they would like to have.
ASK YOURSELF NOW
“How would I like my partner to see me”
Your answer to this is how you aspire to be and leads you to your goals .
I have trained in many and various approaches over the last 23 years. It’s an ongoing process for me of keeping up to date and involved with other experts in the field, worldwide.
For the last 10 years I have been privileged to be a part of the Couples Institute in California and am working closely with the truly exceptional founders of the Institute, Ellyn Bader and Pete Pearson. They are inspirational leaders in transforming the way therapists work with couples. Their innovative Developmental Model is fresh, inspiring, challenging yet easy to understand and above all it works.
For me Working with couples is a constant rewarding challenge and indeed a privilege. If clients are motivated to work then progress is well within their reach. Relationships really can be transformed with expert guidance and more often than not couples feel changes happening from the very first session.
BE IN SAFE EXPERT HANDS
Many counsellors who are individually trained dabble in couples work. In fact less than one in 10 have any substantial training in this highly specialised area. I am very wary of this and so should you be.
ASK YOURSELF NOW
" Would I go to a GP to treat a serious heart problem or would I feel
safer in the hands of a heart specialist”
Same world of difference when picking a therapist!!
MY QUALIFICATIONS ARE BELOW:
Dip. In Pyschodynamic Counselling
Graduate Cert in Couples Counselling
Dip. in Training Others
Dip. in Supervision
Originally Accredited by BACP UK
An Accredited Counsellor and Supervisor for 12 plus years
My favourite Model for working with couples because it offers a great structure and really works in practice
Relate UK 2001-3 - my first training and supervised practice in Couples Therapy
Where I deepened my learning of complex couple dynamics facilitated by UK's leading specialists
WHAT IS ON OFFER
• REGULAR COUPLE COUNSELLING SESSIONS WEEKLY OR FORTNIGHTLY
90 MINUTE SESSIONS – FACE TO FACE OR ON LINE VIA ZOOM
• THE DEEP DIVE ACCELERATOR PACKAGE- FACE TO FACE OR ON LINE VIA ZOOM
• INTENSIVE COUPLES THERAPY. 1 or 2 Day sessions. FACE TO FACE COUNSELLING
By the time couples come in for help they are often feeling highly distressed, they have tried many things to help improve the impasse with no lasting success. Or perhaps they have been suddenly thrown into a crisis situation and don’t know how to move forward.
Most fall into one of 3 categories
1. They want to work through their issues and to improve their relationship
2. They want to Separate.
3. They are not sure. Maybe one wants out and one wants in.
I can help in all these areas.
Couples who are prepared to work will almost always feel more hopeful and feel a positive shift from the very first session!
This is a popular, innovative, new kind of couples therapy.
It's designed to help you get the most out of our time together
The Deep Dive Accelerator package fast tracks the work. It includes in-depth questionnaires before you come which would normally take, at least, three 90 minute, sessions to cover. The questionnaires are specifically designed to:
The questionnaires and reading will take you time to complete before we meet ….so you will need to put aside a morning or evening to do these, it will really be to your benefit.
Likewise, I will spend considerable time going through all of your answers and assessing how best to use our time together.
Included in the Deep Dive Accelerator Pack are:
Once you have completed the Deep Dive Accelerator Pack you can come back any time for top up sessions if you wish. Some couples do continue with regular sessions. Others may just come in for a check-up session after a month or two of putting what they have learnt into practice. For many this mini intensive is enough to get them back on track
1 Day Course
10 a.m.-5 p.m.
2 Day Course (usually consecutive days)
1st day 10 a.m. - 5 p.m.
2nd day 10 a.m. - to 4 p.m.
Includes a lunch break Tea/coffee on all days.
Initial phone calls with each of you to get an outline of what you wish to work on and what you hope to achieve. Also to determine whether the intensive days are the best option for you. They are not suitable for everyone.
The Deep Dive Intensive Pre Counselling Package
All of the above will help you to focus on what your main issues are and think about what you want to realistically achieve in your Intensive
And there is more:
You can also avail of follow up sessions, if required. Or a top up mini intensive as and when you feel it might help. These follow ups can be done on line or face to face.
ABOUT THE COURSE
The Pre Marriage Course is a one off Private Three Hour Session
with a 10 minute tea or coffee break half way through
It's just the two of you with one experienced Couples Therapist
Custom Designed for you to help you
Stay true to Yourself and to Your Relationship
and to prepare you for a lifelong relationship by building on your strengths and teaching essential relationship insights and skills.
This Course is for you if:·
What you will get·
The Cost the Course is ...€225
Cost of follow up Sessions ..€75 per hour
My aim is to help you feel at ease as well as giving you valuable guidelines of how to manage difficulties in a relationship and how to strive for mutual fulfilment and commitment in your relationship. .
CALL OR EMAIL CATE ON FOR BOOKINGS OR FURTHER INFORMATION - OR GO TO THE CONTACTS PAGE ON THIS WEBSITE
I get loads of positive feedback ...here are just a couple of examples
I felt nervous going in especially as my partner wasn’t keen on doing this. I couldn’t believe how much he opened up and talked. Honestly I am so grateful to Cate ...she made us feel really at ease and we learnt so much. I definitely recommend this.
From a Couple who had been married for a year.
Everything was going well until we moved back ‘home’. We seemed to be always arguing, My friend recommended Cate. Cate really helped us understand what was happening, it was such a relief to talk it all through and to get tips on what to do. It felt like she had known us for years! We both came out of there feeling happy and positive. The time just flew by. Great to know she is there for us again if we need more help.
*CATE HAS BEEN DOING THIS COURSE FOR 18 YEARS
Her Certificate's are accepted by local priests. However it is wise to check with your priest before signing up as some insist you do the Church's Group Marriage Preparation Course.
Cate with Ellyn Bader (back row)
At the Master Mentoring Training San Francisco 2020
COUPLE’S COUNSELLING ON LINE TRAINING COURSE
FOR SMALL GROUPS VIA ZOOM/VIDEO
The Bader/Pearson Developmental Model
Integrating: Attachment, Differentiation and Neuroscience
plus elements from other models that are particularly useful in practice.
Helping couples Create the relationship they each desire by being more aligned with person they each aspire to be
This training will be limited to a small group of motivated therapists who want to develop new skills and perspectives for working with couples. Whether you a just starting your practice, are new to couples therapy, or have many years of experience, this training will offer a rich opportunity to:
The Developmental Model
ABOUT THE COURSE
This Training will be live online via ZOOM.
The course will consist of 9, 2 hour on line sessions either weekly or fortnightly. In between each session you will be sent reading lessons, practical aids and exercises, plus handouts for your clients. These will compile as a comprehensive and structured written reference file and tool kit for working confidently with couples.
Course will commence in September 2020
On completion you will be issued a CPD Certificate of Attendance for 18 hours of Couples Therapy Training
About the On line Sessions:
The Course will be both interactive and instructive: It will include:
WHO IS THIS COURSE FOR:
Anyone who is a qualified counsellor/psychotherapist. If you are currently working with couples this will enhance your skills by integrating a highly effective model of couples therapy. For those with little or no experience working with coupes this is a unique opportunity to get started!
Here is an overview of what you can expect to get/learn
And so much more …..
AIM OF THE COURSE
SCROLL DOWN AND READ THE TESTIMONIALS FROM MY LAST TRAINING
• Overview of The Bader/Pearson Developmental Model
• The developmental stages: how recognising each stage helps the therapist provide
effective treatment. ‘
• Differentiation ….What is it and why is it key in couple’s development
• How to be a powerful leader
• How to get off to a powerful start in early couple sessions
• The effective use of genograms in couples work
• Effective autonomous goals for your clients
• The Initiator-Inquirer process, helping couples develop effective communication and
working actively with breakdowns in each role
• Understanding how our brains get triggered within the couple system and ways to soothe
• Understanding how we bring issues from the past into relationships.
• Ways to guide couples to more secure attachment functioning
• Begin Recognising, understanding and working with hostile-angry couples
• Begin Recognising, understanding and working with conflict-avoidant couples.
• Take away tools for you to use in your work with couples
This course may be for you if you would like to:
• Create increased cooperation between partners – even before your first meeting!
• Get off to a powerful start with your couple
• Know how to use the right intervention – and at what time
• Understand the importance of differentiation
• Recognise attachment styles and the underlying causes of distress
• How the fight, flight, freeze brain response impacts the couple and how to calm this
• Integrate theory with practical applications
TESTIMONIALS FROM TRAINEES ON MY LAST TRAINING COURSE
"Cate is highly knowledgeable in the area of couples therapy, she has huge experience in the field and is highly trained and this comes across in her expert assessment of couples and the complex interactions and dynamics between them. She is able to explain these complexities and her training is very broad and detailed. She gave us many tools and techniques to set us up for our journey in couples counselling. Cate is also keenly interested in the subject which makes it more enjoyable to participate in and listen to."
'You really are going above and beyond the call of duty, its excellent value all you are giving us on this training.... 110%, thank you so much. I have learned a ton already.'
'I have completed my first session as a couples counsellor.
Although I was doubting myself, I didn't doubt the training! What was really helpful was to not get caught up in content and focus on process.
The notes were great, I had the structure of the program to work with.
I found that we were really working in the room, working at looking at the process and I managed to maintain the positive neutrality and the boundaries'
'I really enjoyed the training, it really is a lovely group. I learned so much and we had fun too.'
'I really like that it is a structured program that gives couples tangible tasks to work on that will give them results. The role plays were really helpful too
You have put so much work into the training and the handouts/information; My experience was that you created some great conditions for us to learn and grow. '
"Your knowledge and presentation were inspiring "
"I moved from fear of couples counselling to curiosity and then confidence/optimism "
"This has given me a great grounding and I feel more confident now to sit with couples "
"Thanks for everything I have learned so much "
"I would absolutely recommend this training to others and already have! This is because there is a clear objective to the course and an identifiable structure and method for working with couples "
"Cate has in depth knowledge of this subject and it was a privilege to attend the course – wonderful delivery. She gave 110% over and above in her preparation, handouts and delivery.
"I found the developmental Model was easy to understand and it made a lot of sense to me. I could see how it works well with coupes."
If you wish to apply FOR ONLINE TRAINING IN SMALL GROUPS please copy and paste the application form below, fill it in and send it to me as an email attachment. A non-refundable deposit of. X will be required to secure your place. The balance due by …... I will send applicants bank details separately
APPLICATION FORM FOR COUPLE THERAPY TRAINING COURSE 2020 – MAYO
1. Name and address
2. Details of counselling/psychotherapy qualifications
3. Details of any couples counselling training/workshops attended (if any):
4. Do you work with couples? If so tell me a bit about that!
5. How did you hear about me/the training course
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